In 1992, Mary J. Blige released the song, “Real Love” with lyrics like:

Real love
I’m searchin’ for a real love
Someone to set my heart free
Real love
I’m searchin’ for a real love

I was in high school when this song came out and was always looking for love. I was looking for a girlfriend that would affirm me and accept me for who I was. I found myself looking for the love of my parents who were always accepting and affirming. I also looked for love from my peers as I was being nominated for class favorite or student government. All of the issues I had with low self-esteem from being a nerd and being stuck in the friend zone were based on how people viewed me.

As a college student, I finally embraced that God created me to be me and I needed to live as the unique person he created me to be. According to Psalm 139:14, I am fearfully and wonderfully made. According to Ephesians 2:10, I am God’s handiwork. According to Genesis 1:31 as a person that is created by God, his view of me as his creation is very good. This perspective allowed me to begin living life to the fullest because I was no longer basing my value on who people said I was, I based my value on who God said I was. People change, God doesn’t! So now I can live a life where I am constantly loved and valued by God. So if things are rocky at work, home, the world; I can still make good decisions out of the foundation of being loved by God.

So as this Valentine’s Day continues, many who are single (not married or dating), dating (not married), engaged (not married), or married struggle to accept the real love that will be the foundation for all the love they experience in life.

John 3:16 is the most famous verse in the world and is a descriptive verse about the love God has for us.

It says, “ For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

So when asking about the Valentine’s, the day of love, we should not have to ask what did we receive as much as we focus on what we have given. Because real love gives. Keep giving and you will keep feeling the love of God flowing through you to others.

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Published by coreytabor

Corey Tabor serves as the Program Director of Austin LifeGuard, the sexual risk avoidance education program of Austin LifeCare. Serves as the Founder of III Coaching, an organization that informs, instructs and inspires people to live out their purpose. He has been married to April Tabor since 2003 and they have two daughters Anaia Naomi and Charis Dawn. Corey has a B.S. in Communication Studies / Human Relations from the University of Texas at Austin and completed a Masters of Ministry Leadership at Rockbridge Seminary. He is also a Certified Life Coach with the Wainwright Fowler International Institute and Certified Human Behavior Consultant with Uniquely You.

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