Yesterday, I was on my way to Daddy / Daughter Haircare Event sponsored by The Man in Me with whom I serve as the Development Director. This event was so empowering for me because I learned from a professional how to retwist my daughter’s locs. While I was doing my daughter’s hair, Kobe Bryant, one of the greatest basketball players in the history of the world was dying with his daughter in a helicopter crash.
At 41 years old, Kobe Bryant has won 5 world championships, 2 Finals MVP’s and 20 years with the same organization the Los Angeles Lakers. He was building a production company where he’d just won an Oscar for a documentary about his life in basketball. He was married to his wife Vanessa and had 4 children including 13-year old Giana who died in the helicopter crash with him. He is undoubtedly a first ballot hall of famer and one of the top 10 players in NBA history.
I want to share three things I’ve learned from Kobe’s life and subsequent death.
1. Leadership is Born and Bred
Leadership is the ability to influence others to do what needs to be done to move themselves or an organization towards their mission, vision and values. In the game of basketball, the team goal is always to win the game, win the division, win the conference, and then the NBA World Championship. Individual goals can include winning the scoring championship, being selected to the All-Star team or winning league MVP. No can accomplish team or individual goals without leadership.
Kobe was born as a basketball leader to a father who played professional basketball. Kobe was gifted enough to be a leader in high school based primarily based on his skills. As he was drafted to the NBA as a 17-year old, his skills were not enough to get him where he wanted to go. He had to breed leadership through learning his teammates and influencing them to play to their highest level. After 3 straight championships, Shaquille O’Neal his partner in crime left the team and he was left to lead alone. The next two championships meant so much to him because he helped his teammates be their best selves. Yes he was born with leadership abilities but he grew those skills to become a better leader.
2. Maturity – Mistakes Don’t Define You
I define maturity as not making the same mistakes over and over again. All of us make mistakes, we’re human. But if we continue making the same mistakes, that is lack of maturity. Kobe made a mistake in 2003. He engaged in a sexual relationship with a woman in Colorado. He was charged but not convicted. He later gave his wife a multi carat ring and apologized to her, the NBA, and his team.
He continued counseling and together he and his wife rebuilt their marriage and expanded their family with 4 children. He became a man who was known as a husband and father. He coached his daughter’s basketball team and was taking her to a basketball experience on this trip when they’re lives ended together. Kobe owned his mistakes and made different decisions in the future. Today, he is being remembered as a great basketball prayer but just as much as a husband and father.
3. Family First | Legacy over Liability
Our family is our ultimate legacy in this world. Our relationships with our parents and siblings are an investment that we build on through our future endeavors. If we’re blessed to have a spouse and / or children we are gifted with to steward, it is our responsibility to leave a good legacy.
- Invest in experiences not just items.
- Forgive quickly because bitterness kills.
- Ask questions instead of making statements.
- Never leave your family without saying I love upon
- Leave a legacy faith – introduce your children to Jesus not just the joys of toys.
Kobe will be missed. He finished well. He worked hard, he amassed a great deal of income and influence but he would give it all back to be here with his family. So, I say treat everyday as a present because it is, love God and love people.
The other morning, I opened my computer and began opening many files that I would need to write. I opened the Mac program Pages to type my notes; I opened Google Chrome for access to the internet to do additional research; I opened my Logos bible software program to research scriptures in various versions and Spotify so I would have some music to listen to as I wrote. I thought about opening the Mail app for e-mail abilities and iCal to have my schedule for the day easily acceptable. While I was opening all of these files, the computer began to process information slowly. I was ready to move forward to accomplish my purpose for the day, but I had too many windows opened. Some of the programs had a phrase listed next to the title of the document or program that I hate. The phrase is, “Not Responding”. I had too many programs open for my operating system to operate. If I didn’t close some files, my hard drive could ultimately crash.
This is what is happening in many of our lives; we have opened so many files that our spiritual operating system is crashing because the files we opened first took up too much processing space to get the spiritual priorities in there. This Saturday, January 18th we are going to share tools that will help you, “Prioritize for your Purpose”. My hope is that by the time you leave the workshop, you will have a better idea of what your purpose is in life. My hope is that you will begin to recognize the many roles and relationships you have and learn to prioritize those based on your purpose. My hope is that you will discover the invaluable resource of money and time that you have and use those to move towards the purpose God has for you. Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.”
The key to seeing your plans succeed is having your plans line up with God’s purpose for your life.
This weekend we will provide you with the tools you need to begin prioritizing for your purpose. Most people just let life happen to them as they react to circumstances but once you discover why you’re on the planet and begin making intentional choices to accomplish that purpose, you will move from being ordinary to extraordinary. Don’t miss this moment to change the trajectory of your life.
Register today at www.PY4P2020.eventbrite.com