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Prioritize for Your Purpose

January 18, 2020, Corey Tabor of III Coaching and Ronny Washington of Higher Ed Path will be presenting the Prioritize for Your Purpose Workshop. During this dynamic workshop, you will learn steps to discovering your purpose in life. Everyone is looking for why they are here, we give you a process to begin discovering the answer to this question.

After moving towards your purpose, we teach you how to prioritize your roles which are many, your relationships which are diverse, your time which is limited and your money which is significant. In just 4-hours, you will leave with practical tips and tools to live out your purpose at a higher level in 2020. You don’t want to miss this life-changing workshop.

Register today at https://P4YP2020.eventbrite.com

Fear Not . . . Be Strong and Courageous

Read Joshua 1 (NIV)

Joshua Follows Moses

Joshua had served Moses faithfully but Moses could not enter the promised land due to his disobedience when asked to speak to the rock, Moses struck the rock out of anger

 and frustration with the people and dare I say God. Now Moses is dead and Joshua is given the responsibility of leading the people of God to the promised land, the land that God promised to the Israelites when he and Caleb went on their vision trip earlier.

You can imagine the intimidation a younger Joshua was feeling now that he was being asked to fill the big shoes Moses left. His responsibility was to lead. His calling was to lead. 

His purpose was to lead. God was promising him success but he had to trust God more than he trusted what he saw or what people said (v. 3-5). The promise was three-fold:

  1. All the land they could step on would be theirs
  2. They would have guaranteed victory over their enemies
  3. Joshua would receive the same ministry of presence God gave Moses

God wanted to make sure Joshua knew that he was with him but he also wanted to make sure Joshua demonstrated the character development needed to handle this new role. So he tells him four different times in various ways to be strong and courageous.

Be Strong and Courageous

Be Strong and Courgeous

  • v. 6 – Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their ancestors to give them.

 

  • v. 7 –  “Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go

 

  • v. 9 – Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

 

  • v. 18 – Only be strong and courageous!” (This was from the people)

The reason God told Joshua to be strong and courageous and to be strong and very courageous is because God knew Joshua would feel weak and fearful with the daunting task of being Moses’ successor and leading these people who have wondered for forty years into the promised land.

I don’t know what God has called you to as we close out 2017 and prepare to enter 2018 but the word from thousands of years ago applies today, “Be strong and Courageous”. Follow Jesus and trust him to take you to the other side. He created you in Christ Jesus to do good works he prepared in advance for you to do so walk into the works that already prepared for you (Ephesians 2:10). He is a good shepherd who lays down his life for the sheep (John 10:11).

Over the next few weeks I will share a number of blogs that will prepare you for 2018. This is going to be an amazing year if you will trust God more than you trust others and yourself and if you will believe the truth of scripture that says, “All things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28).

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Prioritize for Your Purpose 2020

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The other morning, I opened my computer and began opening many files that I would need to write. I opened the Mac program Pages to type my notes; I opened Google Chrome for access to the internet to do additional research; I opened my Logos bible software program to research scriptures in various versions and Spotify so I would have some music to listen to as I wrote. I thought about opening the Mail app for e-mail abilities and iCal to have my schedule for the day easily acceptable. While I was opening all of these files, the computer began to process information slowly. I was ready to move forward to accomplish my purpose for the day, but I had too many windows opened. Some of the programs had a phrase listed next to the title of the document or program that I hate. The phrase is, “Not Responding”. I had too many programs open for my operating system to operate. If I didn’t close some files, my hard drive could ultimately crash. 

This is what is happening in many of our lives; we have opened so many files that our spiritual operating system is crashing because the files we opened first took up too much processing space to get the spiritual priorities in there. This Saturday, January 18th we are going to share tools that will help you, “Prioritize for your Purpose”. My hope is that by the time you leave the workshop, you will have a better idea of what your purpose is in life. My hope is that you will begin to recognize the many roles and relationships you have and learn to prioritize those based on your purpose. My hope is that you will discover the invaluable resource of money and time that you have and use those to move towards the purpose God has for you. Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.” 

The key to seeing your plans succeed is having your plans line up with God’s purpose for your life. 

This weekend we will provide you with the tools you need to begin prioritizing for your purpose. Most people just let life happen to them as they react to circumstances but once you discover why you’re on the planet and begin making intentional choices to accomplish that purpose, you will move from being ordinary to extraordinary. Don’t miss this moment to change the trajectory of your life.

Register today at www.PY4P2020.eventbrite.com

Prayer for Racial Reconciliation

This Sunday I will be preaching about two of our seven values at Full Life Community Church, “Racial Reconciliation and Reaching the World”.  Our nonprofit community development center is hosting a conference to address this issue March 23-24, 2018 called, “The 5:18 Reconciliation Conference”. I am passionate about this issue and I will tell you why.

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Join us for the 5:18 Reconciliation Conference March 23-24, 2018 at the University of Texas at Austin

Many who know my story know that I grew up in Abilene, Texas which as of 2015 was 61% White, 25% Hispanic, 10% Black and 2% Asian. I know it’s more diverse today than it was when I was there from 1978 – 1995. My two best friends Brett Coe and Paul Matta were white and hispanic respectively.

We did everything together but go to church because none of our churches were sensitive to the racial communities we came from.

We would pray together, study the bible together and hold each other accountable to living out our faith but we could not worship together because still to this day, Sunday morning is the most segregated time in our nation. We, like my friends, work together, live in the same neighborhoods, attend the same schools, shop at the same grocery stores and yet we don’t worship together.

WHY is Sunday Morning the most segregated time in our nation? Listen to Rev. Dr. Martin Luther the King’s perspective.

This question is a “million dollar question”. There are so many historical, sociological and honestly spiritual reasons why we don’t worship together. I could prophetically (meaning speaking the truth in love) simplify it to selfishness and pride. We selfishly want a worship service that reflects us and our preferences more than one that reflects the full image of God (all of us are created in God’s image so when worship only reflects us we are missing a part of the image of God). We often in pride think “our way of worship” that affirms us ethnically and often disaffirms others ethnically is better than “their way of worship.” Contemplative worship compared to Celebratory worship is one comparison. One is quiet, liturgical and linear, the other is loud, unscheduled and nonlinear. Neither are wrong but they are different.

I have been doing reconciliation work for nearly 20 years now through organizations like InterVarsity Christian Fellowship, III Coaching and now The Republican Party of Texas. One of the principles I consistently communicate is we are not looking for nor should we seek sameness (colorblind, all one race of people) but we should according to our faith and our values a national seek for oneness (unified despite our differences).

A nation divided against itself cannot stand. This statement can be attributed to Jesus in the Bible located in Matthew 12:25 and Abraham Lincoln in his 1858 speech entitled, “A House Divided”

In Genesis, we read Moses write about marriage and he says, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” The man and the woman are one but they are not the same. They are equal in human value but not the same. The problem many have is they want to “whitewash” or wash out race in america and make us all the same which limits us from being the great nation we can be. Our diversity is a strength but we have allowed it to be a weakness, especially in the church. We have kept women who are gifted by God to speak from being preachers. We have kept youth who are gifted by God to lead from being pastors. We have kept people who are in a lower socioeconomic status from serving in significant leadership roles and we have allowed people who look and think just like us to dawn the entire leadership structures of our church.

We as a church and a nation need to do as Jesus did and “power down” so God “power up” and get maximum glory out of our lives. Think about it, Jesus left the opulent “suburbs of heaven” and relocated to the dirty “hood projects of earth” navigating through the streets of a woman’s womb so he could relate to us and be the ultimate sacrifice for us. He could have come as a rich influential majority culture adult male who was a king and had earthly authority but he decided to come as a member of a blended family, the son of single mother who was engaged to be married to a blue collar worker. He would ultimately become a refugee, homeless leader of a nonprofit or nongovernmental organization called the “Kingdom of God”.  Later he became a convicted felon and was sentenced to the death penalty.

The question of the church and our nation which was founded on principles of Christianity and religious freedom should be the following:

  • How many blended families are we willing to serve and place in leadership?
  • How many single mothers are we willing to serve and place in leadership?
  • How many blue collar workers are we willing to serve and place in leadership?
  • How many refugees are we willing to serve and place in leadership?
  • How many homeless people are we willing to serve and place in leadership?
  • How many nonprofit or nongovernmental leaders are we willing to serve and place in leadership?
  • How many convicted felons are we willing to serve and place in leadership?

If we were open to serving these populations, instead of mostly pursuing white collar, high dollar, tithe paying unit families, diversity would be more accessible. 

Later this year, we will be launching a separate blog, podcast and virtual book reading club to equip the church and our nation to be reconciled. Join me this Sunday at 10:10am at Full Life Community Church, a missional, maturing, multicultural church that lives to reconcile people to God and one another.

I found this article linked to the image below from the Southern Baptist Church about praying for reconciliation. We will provide others throughout the year.

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Real Love

In 1992, Mary J. Blige released the song, “Real Love” with lyrics like:

Real love
I’m searchin’ for a real love
Someone to set my heart free
Real love
I’m searchin’ for a real love

I was in high school when this song came out and was always looking for love. I was looking for a girlfriend that would affirm me and accept me for who I was. I found myself looking for the love of my parents who were always accepting and affirming. I also looked for love from my peers as I was being nominated for class favorite or student government. All of the issues I had with low self-esteem from being a nerd and being stuck in the friend zone were based on how people viewed me.

As a college student, I finally embraced that God created me to be me and I needed to live as the unique person he created me to be. According to Psalm 139:14, I am fearfully and wonderfully made. According to Ephesians 2:10, I am God’s handiwork. According to Genesis 1:31 as a person that is created by God, his view of me as his creation is very good. This perspective allowed me to begin living life to the fullest because I was no longer basing my value on who people said I was, I based my value on who God said I was. People change, God doesn’t! So now I can live a life where I am constantly loved and valued by God. So if things are rocky at work, home, the world; I can still make good decisions out of the foundation of being loved by God.

So as this Valentine’s Day continues, many who are single (not married or dating), dating (not married), engaged (not married), or married struggle to accept the real love that will be the foundation for all the love they experience in life.

John 3:16 is the most famous verse in the world and is a descriptive verse about the love God has for us.

It says, “ For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

So when asking about the Valentine’s, the day of love, we should not have to ask what did we receive as much as we focus on what we have given. Because real love gives. Keep giving and you will keep feeling the love of God flowing through you to others.

Planning to Fail!

You may have heard it said if you fail to plan you plan to fail! This statement is true but has a limited perspective on what it means to lead and fulfill your purpose. With III Coaching, LLC my coaching company, our purpose is to inform, instruct and inspire others to fulfill their purpose. In the process of doing so we offer workshops, assessments, individual, group and organizational coaching. We help people go from where they are to where they want to be through systematic and purposeful guidance.

In my over 20 years of doing business, I can say that “failure” is always a part of the process. I put failure in quotes because I don’t really believe in failure. I believe that when something doesn’t turn out the way you planned, you succeeded because you learned one other way that does not work. Most businesses technically fail in 5 years according to the measurement of profit margin but the businesses that fail today often have CEO’s and entrepreneurs that are successful later.

USP NFL: SUPER BOWL LII OPENING NIGHT S FBN USA MNNew England Patriots Head Coach Bill Belichick was a successful coordinator with the New York Giants as they won Super Bowls with then Head Coach Bill Parcells. Later Belichick earned the job of head coach of the Cleveland Browns from 1991-1994 only winning 36 games and losing 44. According to measurements of the NFL, he was a failure. He learned from his experience and was earned the job as the head coach of the New England Patriots in 2000 where he has a winning record of 214 wins and only 74 losses. He has won 27 playoff games and only lost 9. The Patriots have won 5 Super Bowls in 17 years. His first season as the Patriots Head Coach he only won 5 games and lost 11. If he let his “failure” in Cleveland be louder than the opportunity in New England, he would have been defeated  in his mind before he ever dawned a whistle and led a practice.

“Failure” is a part of the process so I encourage you to plan to fail but when you do fail, make sure you fail forward. Learn from your “failures” so you can be more effective in your future.

This Sunday Coach Belichick will endeavor lead the New England Patriots to a 6th world championship in during his tenure. Ask yourself . . . is he a failure now? I don’t think so.


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If you enjoyed this blog and you want to learn more principles that will help you fulfill your purpose, join me this Saturday, February 3, 2018 10:00am – 2:00pm in person or online for my signature conference “Prioritize for Your Purpose: Ordering Your Life to Be Extraordinary” where we teach you how to discover your purpose and then prioritize your roles, relationships, time and money to accomplish your purpose.

 

Personal Reflection on Losing Loved Ones

Corey and Mom

This week has been the culmination of two of the hardest years of our lives for me and my wife. On April 4, 2015, my mother Carrie Hazel Tabor transitioned to heaven 23 minutes prior to Easter from a hospice room in Abilene, Texas at the age of 65 years old. She had spent nearly 25 years year on dialysis after suffering kidney failure in 1991 only missing a handful of appointments yet the lack of circulation in her legs led to a fall that caused a uncontrollable brain bleed that would not clot due her thin blood from nearly 25 years of dialysis. I thought the kidney failure would eventually take her but it was a fall due to the years of kidney failure that did the job.

April and VanessaOn May 13, 2015, just hours after my wife April received her second masters degree, her mother, my mother-in-love Vanessa Carol Wynn transitioned to heaven from a hospice room in Dallas, Texas just a day before mother’s day at the age of 56 years old. After having my wife at 19 years old, spending over 10 years as a flight attendant, dodging a potential tragedy on 911 and taking care of a father and mother who died of cancer, she lost her battle with brain cancer after two years of fighting. I thought she would live into her 90’s like her grandmother or at least into her 70’s like her mother but she didn’t make it to her 60’s.

Rick and VanessaOn yesterday, November 28, 2017 just days after Thanksgiving, my wife’s stepfather, my father-in-love Rickey Jerome Wynn transitioned to heaven from a hospice room in Dallas, Texas after an over year long battle with adenocarcinoma in the salvatory gland that eventually spread to his spine at the age of 63 years old. I thought he would live in his 90’s like my grandmothers but he didn’t make it to the expected retirement age of 65.

As a staff pastor at Greater Mt. Zion Baptist Church from 2003-2005 (volunteer staff) 2005-2009 (paid staff), we would host sometimes 40-50 funerals per year. We might show up to work one day and there be a limousine in the front of the church parking lot and a casket at the front of the building. I kept a black suit in my office because any given day we would be called to read a scripture of comfort, pray words of comfort for a family or simply be present to walk a family member into the sanctuary who legs struggled to hold them up under the pressure of such a great loss. Sadly at times you could become desensitized to the losses especially if it was a family member of a family member of a family member of a member of the church who you did not know or had not had the privilege of personally knowing. I would often sit on stage and imagine my parents in that casket to relate and empathize with what the family was going through. Now I don’t have to imagine, I know the feeling. Everyone feels differently when losing a loved one but whether it was expected or sudden, the final loss of life on this side called death is uniquely painful.

Though I have now lost 3 of my four parents and my daughter has lost 3 of four grandparents, I will never say I know exactly how someone feels at the loss of a loved one because I don’t know how they feel but I know how I feel. I feel angry at the sin the entered the world in the garden leading to separation from God and our loved ones through death in this body. I feel grateful for the sacrifice of Jesus that pays the penally for our sin so we don’t have experience eternal separation from God in a place the Bible calls hell. I feel hurt for my wife has loss two of the closest people in her world to this world in the last six months. I feel guilty because many have lost their living parents to drug addiction, alcohol addiction, incarceration, deportation and the like. I feel disappointed due to the nearly 60 million babies in the US and nearly 1.5 billion across the world who never knew life outside of the womb due to their parent or parents aborting them in the womb. I feel confused that in 2016  17,250 murders outside of the womb were committed in the U.S. We know that Cain killed Abel, which was the third crime in the garden after Adam and Eve stole fruit from God and made those ugly clothes from the hide of animals Adam had just named (joke :).

So as you can see I have all kinds of feelings but what is grounding me in this season is not my feelings by my faith that usurps the fact that my 3 of my four parents are no longer on this planet in the physical shell we know as a body but their spirits live on in eternity based on what the Bible, the holy inspired word of God in which I believe.

The following scriptures give me foundational hope to handle the hurt in this season. 

  • Romans 12:15 – Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
  • Matthew 5:4 – Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
  • 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 – Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 – Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage one another with these words.
  • John 14:1-3 – “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.
  • 2 Corinthians 4:12 – 5:10 – So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you. It is written: “I believed; therefore I have spoken.” Since we have that same spirit of faith, we also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you to himself. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands. Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, because when we are clothed, we will not be found naked. For while we are in this tent, we groan and are burdened, because we do not wish to be unclothed but to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life. Now the one who has fashioned us for this very purpose is God, who has given us the Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come. Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord.For we live by faith, not by sight. We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.

These passages and many others give me a biblical perspective on death but I cannot only cognate death, I must hope in eternal life so I am committing to reading the book “Imagine Heaven” by Pastor John Burke to gain a perspective on what my loved ones who had faith in Christ are experiencing now.

I will also worship listening to these two songs along with others that encourage my heart in times of physical loss.

Finally, I will listen to this sermon that I preached on October 1, 2003 at Greater Mt. Zion Baptist Church to consider what I want to be said of me when I have transitioned to heaven at some point rather through the rapture or in physical death.

Click below to hear this message Legacy or Liability: What Will Your Mark Be

Legacy or Liability - What Will Your Mark Be - Pastor Corey Tabor

 

 

22 Years Ago Today . . .

The day was November 19, 1995. I was a freshman at the University of Texas at Austin. I was living in an all male dorm Moore Hill room 109. I was scheduled to attend church that morning but my mentor and big brother Donyall Dickey was not able to pick me up that day so I stayed in my dorm but was still wanting to connect with Jesus so I read the bible. I read Ephesians 5. It’s like the words were jumping off the pages and forming puzzles that my mind and spirit were putting together. The bible was making more and more sense.

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Tabor Family 1976

Now to understand this moment, I must digress and explain my spiritual background and the context of my life at the time. I grew up as the son of Samuel and Carrie Tabor, a pastor in the Church of God in Christ, the largest African American denomination in the world. So my background was being a part of a small pentecostal local church serving as a children’s Sunday School teacher, singing in the choir and playing the drums. I grew up in Abilene, Texas a town of 100,000 people with the most churches per capita in the country and three Christian universities.

 

 

 

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Corey Tabor and Sonya Scott 1995 Homecoming King and Queen

I had graduated from high school with seven academic scholarships (mostly local) and was ending my dream senior year of being student body president, speech team president, homecoming king and co-host to a children’s television show called, “Camp Waycoo”. 

After completing my personal bible study on the morning of November 19, 1995, I went to Jester dormitory to each lunch and came back and watched the Dallas Cowboys beat the Oakland Raiders 34-21. I played Madden video game to continue the beat down and then prepared for Sunday evening service that night at the church I was attending called Praise Tabernacle now known at the R.O.C.K.. That night at church Elder Mark Floyd preached a sermon about spending time with God. He recommended that instead of going home to watch TV we go home and spend time with God. So I went back to my dorm room and started listening to Fred Hammond and Radical for Christ’s Inner Court CD. 

As I listened to the CD I sensed that God was calling me to preach the gospel, not just as a lay person but as a called preacher / minister / reverend whatever your tradition calls it. I was reticent because having seen my brother and father both be ministers I knew how challenging it was and you couldn’t do it well or long without being called. So I told God I was scared, three times in a row. Finally I asked for confirmation and fell asleep. The next morning I called my mother and the first thing she said was, “God called you to preach last night.” She heard from God and she confirmed what I heard. That December my brother and I led a Christmas youth revival at my dad’s church and I began preaching the gospel. I went on to grow in spiritual leadership at UT by becoming chaplain of the choir my sophomore year, president of the choir my 3rd, 4th and 5th years and continued as a member of Gamma Phi Delta.

Prioritize for Your Purpose Logo FinalAfter graduation, I started a bible study on campus that was partnered with Praise Tabernacle and the next year we affiliated with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship to launch Texas Gospel Fellowship, a ministry to black students at UT. During this time I wrote a resource that has continued to be developed and shared called, Prioritize for Your Purpose: Ordering Your Life to Be Extraordinary. We are hosting a workshop January 13th at the H.I.M. Center to share that content as people begin their year. After four years of severing with InterVarsity, I joined the staff of Greater Mt. Zion Baptist Church as the Maturity and Ministry Pastor where I served for 4 years prior to planting the church I now pastor Full Life Community Church.

22 years ago, I was a zealous, passionate inexperienced boy who God called for his purposes to minister to the body of Christ. Today, I’ve had many maturing experiences that have allowed me grow as a person and a minister of the gospel. I am thankful that for over half my life I have been preaching the gospel in season and out of season as Paul describes in 2 Timothy 4:2. I have preached to children, students, adults young and older. I have preached in places from Colorado to Las Vegas to California. I have preached at chapel for the University of Texas football team and in local prisons. I served on missions trips in Kenya and Ethiopia,  officiated weddings, dedicated babies and preached my own mom’s funeral. 

Philippians 1.6.All I can say after all these experiences is to say that God is faithful. He has allowed me to see thousands of people’s lives impacted for the kingdom of God and he has taught me so much about his heart for me and his world. I am more committed than ever to live out the gospel as a minister of the gospel knowing that he who began a good work in me in able to carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus (Philippians 1:6). I am thankful to all who have led me as pastors, ministry leaders and mentors and to all who have allowed me to lead them as their pastor, ministry leader or mentor. I am thankful to my parents to planted the seed of faith in me at a young age and to my wife April who has been by my side the entire way. Let’s do another 22 years of preaching the gospel of Jesus in Jerusalem, Judea, Samaria and utter most parts of the world. 

Being Who God Created You to Be

Today we will begin sharing one chapter of the book, “Being: A 30-Day Guide to Being Who God Created You to Be. If you would like to order the book or the audio book go to our Store. If you would like to book Corey Tabor to come speak to your group go to Booking. We pray that the public release of the book on our blog will bless you daily as you learn to be who God created you to be.

Introduction

Being who God made you to be

Do you remember learning as a child the value of self-actualization? I am sure you did not know how to say, or pronounce, the word, but you were consistently asked the fundamental question of self-actualization – “What do you want to be when you grow up?” The question was a trick question. Because while being asked what you wanted to be, you were really being asked, “What do you want to do that will earn you a living so you can get off your parent’s tab?”

We spend our entire lives meeting people and asking the question, “What do you do for a living?” So many people are productive, driven, seemingly successful, and yet unhappy because they have been answering the wrong question all along. The best question to ask is not “What do you do for a living?” but rather, “What are you being as you live?” You can have a job that pays well, but does not allow you to fulfill your purpose.

Once you learn how to be who God created you to be, you can learn how to do what God created you to do out of your being.

Read Luke 10:38-42

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.

40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things,  42 but few things are needed – or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

In this passage we read about Mary and Martha, who are two sisters who sincerely love Jesus. Martha chose to do something for Jesus by making preparations for Him to be in her home, while Mary chose to be with Jesus to make preparations for what she would eventually do. Later in Scripture, we read of Mary giving one of the greatest sacrificial gifts described in the Bible. She poured a jar of perfume on Jesus that was equal to the value of a year’s wages, because she had been with Jesus instead of just doing for Jesus. Mary gave a gift that was a reflection of her generosity, a gift birthed in a personal relationship defined by being with Christ. Similarly, what we do will flow out of who we are.

Earlier this year, I was leaving to go to work one day when a woman I had never met before asked me, “Do you ever slow down?” I was shocked at her candor and boldness. I was embarrassed of my lifestyle because though she had never met me, she knew me through observation from afar. I immediately began to defend myself, listing all the reasons I needed to live at the pace I was living. She answered, “I used to run the rat race too. About two years ago, I just had to make a decision to slow

down.” With that, she left me alone to my own thoughts and drove away.

Driving down the freeway, I could not seem to get her question out of my mind. I knew that God was trying to tell me something, but I was not ready to listen. So, when I arrived at work, one of my co-workers asked me, “Why are you here? You are not going to get anything done. Go home!” So after 30 minutes of driving home thinking about the second conversation, I knew God was trying to tell me something and I started to listen.

That infamous day began a season of involuntary rest through the vehicle of burnout and fatigue. I could not think, I could not produce, and I could not function. My mind, body and spirit were burned out from living a Martha lifestyle. I was waking up at 6:00am and working until 12:00am trying to balance marriage, ministry and school. This Martha lifestyle kept me from sitting at the feet of Jesus. After six weeks of lying on my back, living from the bed to the couch, I finally learned that God is more concerned about who I am than what I can do for Him. I learned that being God’s son is more important to my identity than being God’s servant. This book is a response to my new life in Christ – being instead of doing.

In this book, you will learn to embrace life-changing character qualities that will help you be who God created you to be, so that you can do what God created you to do. Our character is defined by who we are, and who we are enables us to do what we do. For example, being accepted by God allows me to take the risk of sharing my faith. No matter how any individual responds, I am already accepted as God’s child. Being different allows me to celebrate the uniqueness of others. When I know God has created me uniquely, I can embrace His unique creation in others. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

Each day you will focus on an attribute that God desires as a supernatural part of your character and you will be empowered by His Spirit to live the life He desires for you.

Each day your devotional guide will provide:

• Focused Scripture Passage

• Devotional Reading

• Personal Reflection Questions

• Today’s Prayer

• Statement of Being

Join me on this 30 day journey to writing your new story of being who God has created you to be.

Let the journey begin . . .

Black Lives Matter in the Womb: My Journey to Understanding Abortion

Abortion is the #1 Killer of Blacks in the United States!

As part of our Black Lives Matter to God Series at Full Life Community Church, I decided to adBlack Lives Matter @flccaustindress the issue of abortion and how it is impacting the Black community for the first time at our church. I preached a sermon entitled, “Black Lives Matter in the Womb”. You can hear the sermon here.

I’m writing this blog today to share about my journey to understanding the impact of abortion of women, men and families. I started working at a Staff Educator for Austin LifeCare Pregnancy Resource Center (ALC) which is a CareNet affiliated pregnancy center that assists men and women dealing with unplanned pregnancies. ALC has been in existence since 1984 and in 1989 began Austin LifeGuard (ALG) as a preventative program that provides sexual risk avoidance education to middle school and high school students throughout Central Texas.

Part of my training to be a staff educator was to learn more about what pregnancies center provide and one of those services is decision counseling to assist a person in making an informed decision related to their pregnancy. In addition to this service, the center offers free professional counseling, free premarital counseling, free birthing classes and free parenting classes. All the class participants receive vouchers called “Baby Bucks” that can be used to “purchase” items in a boutique called Hannah’s Closet including items like baby clothes, diapers, wipes, formula, strollers, pack and plays and the like. All of this impressed me because I could see how men and women who were dealing with an unplanned pregnancy might benefit from these services. The second service that impacted me was the support groups to assist women in recovering from an abortion, miscarriage or sexual abuse. There are free groups to provide support for men and women who have been through these life altering events.

We were then given the opportunity to view two documentaries, “Blood Money” which speaks of the monetary drive in the abortion industry and “Maafa 21: Black Genocide in 21st Century America” which speaks of the intentional and strategic impact of abortion on the black community. After watching these documentaries, I was informed about something I’d never really known about. I didn’t know how abortion worked in our country and now I was informed so I had to do something.

To say the least, I was impacted by this information and began to learn more. As I spoke with men and women who had been a part of an abortion decision, I was hearing the impact it had on their lives. Men who wanted their children and were not given a chance to have them and women who made a decision in the moment that they often regretted later. My heart was broken and my passion was fuel.

I immediately began to get involved in discovering what I could do. I became involved in working with our center to refer men and women to the support groups that were being offered to assist them in recovery. I began working with the Texas Alliance for Life by attending the Rally for Life and their annual banquet. Eventually, I joined their Board of Directors and now serve as the Secretary. I met with legislators who would work to create legislation that would make abortion safer for women who were considering the decision and more than anything I wanted to get the word out to other pastors and people in the Black community so I joined the EMBRACE Initiative started by Debbie Juhlke and now I serve as chair.

I am not approaching this issue blindly nor with a limited understanding of what causes people to consider abortion. I am not judging people who have made the choice, I am focused on helping people make a better choice because few people I know who have had an abortion look back at the experience positively and think, “Let’s do that again”. Our church is working to develop plans to offer a ministry to men and women who have had abortions or are considering abortions. I will continued my work in the community and provide leadership and support to other leaders to work on this issue day in and day out.

I want to encourage you to follow the four steps I laid out in my sermon as an application to this blog:

  1. Get informed – learn the facts
  2. Get impacted – move from statistics to stories
  3. Get invested – realize that this issue matters
  4. Get involved – do something to make a difference

I have seen so many people learn about this issue and use these four steps to do something about it. You can be the next person to speak truth and learn how to help others. My hope is that you have heard my heart and my desire to help and not to hurt, my desire to bring healing and not harm, my desire to bless and not curse.

Deuteronomy 30:19 says, “This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blesses and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.”

I challenge us all to choose life.